Relationships: Am I Ready?

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Greetings my friends.

I’d like to send a special welcome to the young men and women who are reading this post.

There will come a time where every young person in this day and age will consider being in a relationship. I touched on this aspect in an earlier post and it’s one of the beautiful things about being a human being.

The question that most young people would ask themselves are, “Am I ready for a relationship?” or “How do I know that I’m ready for one?” Make no mistake my friend, relationships are hard work. They require a whole lot of effort, time, affection and emotional maturity. One need to be fulfilled as an individual before committing to another.

That being said, how do you know when you’re truly ready?

1. When you don’t need to be in one.

This is key. Deciding when to or feeling the need to be in a relationship is a clear indication that you’re not ready to be in one. Being single is one of the best times to be able to establish something for yourselves; something that you can call yours. When one is actively seeking for a relationship to satisfy a need, they are missing out on the time to build and to develop one’s mindset, emotional maturity and the tools needed to build long-lasting friendships. Once you are fulfilled and have achieved most of the goals you have made for yourselves and you are able to live life knowing that you can rely on yourself for your own upkeep and don’t need to be in a relationship, then at that point, you are ready.

2. When you have a firm knowledge of God’s standards for relationships.

Can you hold a relationship without standards to live by or follow? To have an effective and successful relationship, you need to have a solid understanding of the standards needed to create this. For this, you will need to go the One who established them in the first place; Jesus Christ. I will be writing a separate post on this point later. Read the Bible concerning the standards needed for relationships and make an effort to follow them and not to compromise on them. A relationship without the right foundational standards will always fall apart.

3. When you understand the benefits and the risks involved.

Relationships require a lot of investment, of emotions, time and money. It’s not necessarily about what you are investing, it’s about who you are investing it on.

Are you willing to spend time and not to be in a rush? Have you made enough effort to know the person in a responsible manner? Do they respect you? Have you thought about your emotional well-being in case things don’t go so well? Have you thought about what you may gain from a potential partner and what you may lose?

Relationships are not a joke. Real feelings are involved and many people become heavily invested in it. Make sure that you thought about where you are, where you’re heading and whether or not it is a right choice for you. Make an informed decision rather than one out of emotional impulse.

I found the book entitled Waiting and Dating: A Sensible Guide to a Fulfilling Love Relationship written by Dr Myles Munroe very helpful. I thoroughly enjoyed reading and learning from the guide and I’m sure that you will use it to help you discover whether you are truly ready for a relationship, and how to make it successful.

What do you think my friend? Let me know in the comment section below.

Thank you for reading. Stay blessed and remember, keep the faith.

Tunde T. Amao

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