Reading The Road Less Travelled by M. Scott Peck

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Greetings, my friends.

I’d just like to take this moment to thank all my readers for taking the time to read and follow up on this blog and I also will like to extend a warm, special welcome to any new readers! Thank you for joining us!

This book I want to talk about is an amazing read. I recommend to anyone I come across. In fact, it is a book of which I hold a very strong opinion that every person must read.

Entitled The Road Less Travelled, Dr M. Scott Peck had made a remarkable job using questioning, his experience as a Psychiatrist, Psychotherapist and in his Christian walk to produce this guide that if followed, will help you build a happier, fulfilled life, as a person, parent, partner and spouse respectively.

This is an exciting read and without revealing too much, the book explores the following themes:

1. Discipline

2. Love

3. Growth and Religion

4. Grace

Dr Peck also speaks about the importances of mental health. This may be a difficult topic for some and a topic that many would not want to talk about, but as human beings, we owe it to ourselves, our families and friends to ensure that we are totally healthy; physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally.

When we are ill, we either take medicine or visit the doctors. When it is an emergency, we go to the hospital. When we are stressed or emotionally weary, we speak to our good friends and they give us a shoulder to cry on. The same when we are low in faith; we consult God through Jesus Christ for encouragement. On the point of mental health, how do we know whether we need help when we haven’t gone to check ourselves?

We need to be healthy in order to function. M. Scott Peck has used helpful case studies of patience he has seen and treated to highlight very important aspects of the human mind and emotions that we all should be aware of. He has also given us, what I call, a privileged look into his own mindset and thinking pattern through anecdotes about the existence of God and protection of His grace.

I have learnt so much from this book and have already started using the principles in my own life as well as taking the steps to be more aware of myself. I say this because, in order to truly improve ourselves and the way our life is set up, we need to be aware of the person we are and the place we are at right now.

For those who are looking for a healthy guide on discipline and how to love effectively and in the right way, then this is a book for you. Also, this is a special request to those who are parents, parents to be and those wishing to establish a family in the future: if you want to ensure the positive mental well-being of your children, establish a loving environment and to help your child grow up to be fulfilled, then you must read The Road Less Travelled. It will help your children and it will help you in turn.

Are there any books you would like to share that has helped you develop as a person? Please share it in the comment section below.

Thank you for reading friend, and all the best on your journey of self-discovery! God bless!

Tunde T. Amao

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Never Give Up!

 

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Hello, my friends.

Two years ago, I fell and was stuck in a rough patch; a patch that many have fallen into, but not everyone breaks out of.

I wish to share the lessons that I have learnt whilst being “down in the dumps”.

1. MINDSET IS EVERYTHING.

My friends, please take note of this: Do not allow your circumstances to influence your thinking. You; yes, YOU have the power to change your circumstances. Life is difficult, but don’t let it bully you into submission. Don’t allow it to force you into a corner and you not do anything about it. The God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob is bigger than our life circumstances, and not understanding, nor appreciating that God is in control will dampen your mood and make you question your self-worth.

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Please note: God wants us to test and to approve what His will is; He wants us to do this. We just have to choose to renew our minds. Again, we have to choose to do this.

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2. DO NOT LIMIT YOURSELF.

You are too special to do this yourself. You are fearfully and wonderfully made and everything God has placed in you is wonderful (Psalm 139: 14). A good friend had told me not to pigeonhole yourself in one place. Life is filled with many things that one can venture into. Yes, it may mean stepping out of your comfort zone, but it’s a small price to pay compared to staying there and having zero chance to make life more positive for yourself.

3. NEVER LOSE HOPE

Proverbs 16: 3: Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.

Proverbs 3: 5-6: Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him and he will make your paths straight.

Do not forget the God you serve. Do not forget the hope that Jesus had died, and rose again for. Do not place your hope in man; they will disappoint you. Do not place your hope in things, for they can be taken away. Remain steadfast in the teachings of God and ask Him to lead you. He is the ONLY one who can fulfil your heart’s desire. Only He can lead you out of the dumps either through His word or through people who he has appointed to encourage you.

Life will always go up and down. When you fall down, it doesn’t mean you should stay down. Don’t build your house on sinking sand, but on the solid rock of Christ. Stay close to God and He will never let you down. The way will be made and all have to do is summon the courage to walk through. You owe it to yourselves.

Isaiah 43: 18 -19: Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.

We will make it my brothers and sisters! Never give up!

Tunde T. Amao

 

Bible Study – Helpful Tools

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Hello, my friends.

I thought it would be nice to share some very helpful tools that help me out during Bible study or when I want to ask questions or gain extra information about biblical history.

1. GotQuestions?org

GotQuestions.org has to be my favourite research tool for Bible study. The organisation provides answers to any biblical, spiritual or religious questions that one may have. There are various categories that most questions fall under and you can search and read GQ’s answers to the questions many others have asked. I often use this to ask biblically related questions, and research on Philosophical and Theological concepts. It also enables you to ask questions directly to them, of which they will research and provide an answer within 2 – 3 days! GQ is also available as apps which you can download from the Apple App Store and Google Play Store for android devices respectively.

NB: I will be using this tool to provide background reading on particular issues that I will share in future posts. I really enjoy this tool and I’m sure that you would too!

2. Open Bible.

The Open Bible is useful for researching scriptures within particular topics. Want to know what the Bible says about love? Pop it in the search box, click “Find Out” and read, learn and study to your heart’s content!

NB: I will also use this tool to refer to a cluster of scripture within a topic raised in the upcoming blogs (Just like what I did above)!

3. Commentaries and the Interlinear/ Concordance function on the Blue Letter Bible app (Click here to download on iPhone, iPad, and Android devices).

This is a very useful tool for those who wish to dive deeper into God’s word (Everyone should want to do this in my opinion). The Interlinear/ Concordance function enables you to explore the Hebrew and Greek words themselves and to learn the meaning of the original word. For example, the name “Eden” means “pleasure”. Once you locate the root word, it also provides the terms luxury, dainty, delight, and finery. and the term “garden” in Hebrew is gan, which means “garden” (of course) and an “enclosure”. (An enclosure of luxury, dainty, delight, and finery. Sounds delightful!)

Biblical commentaries are written by Theologians and can help with what we can spend a lot of time seeking before actually reading the Word; context. They also offer a range of biblical analysis and cross biblical referencing, which I thoroughly enjoy. My personal favourite is the David Guzik commentaries but have a look at the others for your own personal taste.

Remember, these are tools to help Bible study to be systematic, fun and informative. However, none of these will be helpful if the reader/researcher is not spirit-led. Before you open your Bible and notepad, shoot a prayer from your heart asking God to open your eyes to His truth within the words. Have a receptive spirit and be expectant to hear from our Heavenly Father. His Word is to enable you to know Him better and to discover His plans for you as well as to enable you to live an effective lifestyle based on his Word.

Are there any Bible study tools that you would like to use? Please share it with us in the comment section below.

Thank you for reading my friends, and my the Lord richly bless you. Amen.

Tunde T. Amao

 

Right and Wrong: Absolute or Relative? – Part 1

Greetings, my friend.

I still remember when I took my seat in my first International Human Rights lecture at my university, and my lecturer who has a wealth of knowledge asked us a simple, yet thought-provoking question: is human rights absolute or relative?  As we discussed this point in class, I thought about asking the same question in regards to what we know (or don’t know) about Right and Wrong.

Now I have to admit, I am not a Philosopher, (although I’d love to have all the know-how on Philosophy at my disposal; I imagine having different categories within the mental realms of the brain, flicking sources and information at will) and I am bound to my own understanding of philosophical concepts, nevertheless this challenges me to explore all these in my own time, and to share with you, of course. I may mix up philosophical concepts or, what would be unfortunate, get them wrong totally. To the philosophers out there, please leave your comments below so that I may learn and correct myself.

Keeping the focus on the concepts mentioned above, Absolutism, simply put, is something that is concrete and widespread; it cannot be changed or ignored without incurring some particular consequences, E.g we know that killing something is absolutely wrong. Relativism, again, in my own understanding is something that is permissible only within a set context, for example, one rule or way of life may be acceptable in one culture, but totally wrong in another. The best way I can explain this concept is the following statement that you’ve probably heard someone say: “Just because it’s right for you doesn’t mean it’s right for me.”

Now that the concepts have been explained, we can go forth and attempt to answer the question. As I am a Christian, my analysis will be from the Christian perspective. I will be writing a separate post illustrating my answer. Also, whilst writing this post, it had dawned on me how broad this subject is, and will condense it as much as I can.

I believe and have a strong conviction that Good and Bad are absolutes, even though elements of relativity can pop up here and there. I read a debate earlier on and an example of The Thief was used. The Contender illustrated that if she was a thief and was to steal money from the store, and left a note indicating that they would pay it back in a months time as she wanted the money for support, which will improve her life a lot and will strive to reimburse the funds, then is this truly a bad thing?

The Instigator whilst rebutting had stood his ground and said in this context that stealing from others is wrong. He added a few extra facts to The Contender’s illustration stating that the amount stolen, whether a great amount or not had placed his business in financial difficulty having only one day to pay his all debts. Unable to do so, he loses his business, and his wife and unfortunately commits suicide.

Having said all this, my thoughts are this:

An act which deprives another of a personal, emotional, financial, mental, physical is absolutely wrong. However, this statement is not an absolute statement. We can think of many situations where the overall benefit of an aspect of life is good, but given its own unique context, it is concluded that the act is not right and should be set aside.

A good example of this is two friends who both have feelings for each other and would want to establish a relationship. This is good. However, they both are aware of the inner conflicts that they have. We know that holding a relationship requires time, dedication and emotional maturity, whilst having to balance that with their own projects and ventures as individuals. Sure, being in a relationship is good, but for these individuals, it wouldn’t be the right choice, (unless they believe they could do it and juggle everything else simultaneously).

In the light of relationships, the answer is clear-cut. The concept as a whole, well, it’s not easy to give a definite answer.

As mentioned earlier, I will be writing a separate post on this matter, to illustrate this point even further, but I leave you with this same question. Let me know what you think in the comment section below.

Thank you for reading, friend.

Tunde T. Amao

Why?


I know you’re thinking: “why, what? What is the subject of the why I am asking?”

Don’t be alarmed, my friend.

This introductory post is dedicated to the skill of asking questions. It is not wrong to ask questions, but it will be helpful to have the willingness to be interested in the answer you’re seeking, whether or not it will satisfy your curiosity. Even if it does not, you must not give up. For it is the answer that comes understanding, enlightenment, and hidden wisdom. What you do with the answer will help shape how you will live your lives in the most positive way.

This is not intended to be some sort of precedent or a widespread approach to tackling the issues raised which spur us on to ask questions; we all have different thinking patterns, different ways of looking at things, as well as separate belief systems. However, are you comfortable with being told something and told to believe it just because? Are you comfortable with not doing enough digging, thinking we can get by just by skimming the surface?

We need to KNOW the reasons why we believe what we believe, and whether it is positive and beneficial for life and for individuals and the collective rather than benefiting the one, which will be ourselves. As I write this, I imagine that people are thinking of Religion, however, it doesn’t necessarily have to be just this. It can be culture, community life and unwritten rules which life has dictated that we must follow. Now I’m not advocating being an anarchist of any kind, I’m just saying that you need to know why for these things. The best way to do this through the bible, and to place ourselves in the mind of God, and to figure out why He has established what He has established and what the results mean for the aforementioned aspects of life.

Let’s take a step into the beyond, my friend, and look at the world concepts, teachings, mysteries and things we normally brush aside and ask ourselves “Why?” Then we’ll go and seek the answer together.

Thank you for reading my friend.

Tunde T. Amao