EVENT – OFNC LONDON Presents: Me and U: A Conversation

My brothers and sisters,

I am happy to announce that I will be amongst a team of panellists discussing all things relationships at the Overseas Fellowship of Nigerian Christians, London Branch!

The talk will feature a panel discussion that addresses topics such as:

Relationship ‘goals’

Love vs Respect

Sexuality and Christianity

Masculinity and Femininity

And many others!

 It is a free event, and you can obtain your tickets now! Donations are also welcome as stated on the Eventbrite link here!

Date: Sunday 18th February 2018

Location: 17 St Mary’s Church, Peckham, SE15 2EA!

Time: 3pm!

See you there!


Men, Women and Relationship Dynamics: A Godly Woman’s Concern


This post is for the men, who know that there is something wrong and cannot place their finger on it. You want to love a woman, but there are challenges and struggles that you do not know about and you are often left heartbroken. Or you feel idle, and you KNOW that there is something more out there. You see others do it, but you don’t have that spark to push you forward. Or you’ve come to an awareness that something is not right at all.

Not only this is the case, but in the general viewpoint, there are huge concerns about the mental states, attitudes and behaviours of men whether they believe in Christ or not. And this has been picked up by the women in their discussions and expressions of frustration on social media.

I believe there is a landscape picture, one which displays the beauty when things are in the right places, but what I can see and have personally experienced once upon a time, is that there is an incomplete picture with missing jigsaw puzzles.

I’m on a personal quest to help men find the missing pieces so they can complete their pictures.

I was fortunate enough to have a question-answer discussion with a woman of God, a fellow award-winning writer and a person I have the pleasure to call my friend, who has seen the issues surrounding the men and has shared her personal view and also spoke on general viewpoints held by women which will help aid you grow into the man needed in today’s society, wherever you are.

Her name is Elizabeth T Peters, principle blogger of http://www.ElizabethTPeters.com! The discussion is below!


TTA: I honestly believe that in terms of relationship dynamics, something is amiss, and looking the missing pieces to help complete the picture between men and women.

What are the general female expectations a man must meet before entering a relationship and what are the common issues that women would like to avoid in their relationship with a guy?

ETP: The characteristics of a leader in every sphere, strong sense of self, ambitious with a clear sense of direction towards said ambitions. The issues are not fulfilling any of the above, having not achieved self-actualization and displaying signs of indecisiveness.

I know a lot of young men don’t have it altogether but it’s part of the expectations to have made a great effort towards having it together and that starts from knowing what it means to have it altogether and how to get there.

Too many guys focus on just looking like they have it altogether and up being a mess inside. They run after financial stability, which of course is important, without stabilizing their soul and spirit. Personally, I’ve met guys with everything in place literally everything but still suffer from self-esteem issues and it was painful to see.

So yes self-actualization in every realm is vital. Men are leaders and no matter how accomplished the woman is she expects a leader in her man. The more accomplished she is, the more she’ll expect.

TTA: I like this.  I like to question expectations, so allow me to be a bit extra here. To grab deeper insight: are Men are leaders because of inherent design, as in designed to lead as men or because women expect men to be leaders?

ETP: Designed to lead! Adam as exhibit A.

TTA: In regards to what you mentioned, I guess this is a principle of life, not having everything together should drive a man to work to have it all together; before having a serious relationship with any lady.

From your perspective, what do you think is cause for males having low self-esteem?

ETP: I think it’s the same for any human, comparisons being a killer reason from what I’ve seen but others might have grown up in homes where derogatory terms were used loosely, past failures or any unreconciled internal turmoil.

TTA: And I’m safe to say that when it comes to platonic friendships, women don’t expect anything from a male friend and women would be uncomfortable if a male platonic friend is attempting to lead?

ETP: Yeah, there aren’t expectations from a male friend that would be any different from a female friend except of course knowledge/advice from a male perspective. Leading for example, in saying where they were going for lunch next is no biggie but I guess like in her life it’s an overstep because a woman only wants a leader when joined to the person. If she’s not with the person then that role is to be kept vacant.

TTA: I’m asking this because I personally think that some males can overstep friendship boundaries to do what wasn’t agreed or authorised.

ETP: Yes and this is where lines blur and expectations that weren’t agreed upon fall short.

TTA: Powerful. Again, many ladies are now voicing her concerns about the state of men, mindset, masculinity, love and purposeful relationships.

ETP: My brother and I are pretty close, plus I tend to keep close male friends, so we’re frank with each other about these things. Plus, I love psychology lol.

TTA: And what advice would you give a guy who was struggling with all the issues mentioned and doesn’t know how to move forward?

ETP: Pray, Get mentors, he may not be able to see all the characteristics sought in one so have more than one mentor. They don’t have to be direct either, could be a public speaker, blogger/vlogger. The truth is, we mould what we want from what we’re exposed to.

TTA:  Thank you so much, Elizabeth!

ETP: Always welcome!


You can check out her award-winning blog here on www.ElizabethTPeters.com!

Something Men (And Women) Should Know


Hello, my brothers and sisters.

In the month of September, I had attended my first #Pentalk Event for the first time and I was utterly amazed at what I heard. It was an extremely refreshing discussion and of course, I took a lot of notes!

I shared my notes on my Instagram story and thought I’d share them here for all, especially for my brothers out there!

I want to share something with my brothers in Christ and my brothers of mankind.
Despite what you think, the women are WELL aware of some of the issues of masculinity and with the difficulty of us men sharing our emotions.
Our inability to share our emotions can cause stress on the ladies. They worry and are concerned about whether you are emotionally available or not.
Now, guys, I get it. We do process emotions differently but don’t overgeneralise it. Some men are not quite emotional, some men are.

The issues why we don’t wanna share is because of:

The “man-up” stereotype;

 You are worried about how unmanly or soft she may perceive you to be if you did share;

A lack of trust.

One gentleman at the event shared that emotions are meant to be expressed, more for yourself than for your relationship. You must feel comfortable with expressing them to the woman you are with. If you cannot do this, then why are you with her?

Flipside: IF you are with someone who considers you unmanly and soft for expressing your emotions and is generally uninterested about your own issues and you find yourself playing an act or restricting yourself for the purposes of your relationship, then that’s not the lady you should be with.

Flipflipside: It is not your place to determine what your special lady can or can’t handle. This cannot be a reason why you cannot express yourself. Let her know and let her deal with it. She’s not a baby.

Both parties need to come together with a heart of understanding, not expectation.

It is very refreshing to see that women are aware and expressing their concerns regarding male emotions. All they want to see is a physical manifestation of how you are dealing with any difficult circumstances, EXCLUDING VIOLENCE. Simply stating how you feel gives her an idea of how you are.

She is not a mind reader and you are not a Stone Cold Rock (WWE fans will understand). You are a human being and entitled to express yourself without unjust judgment, fear or having your masculinity questioned. Beware of those looking for the benefits of a relationship without having to deal with the difficult aspects of it. Relationships will ALWAYS require work.

Finally and most importantly, a message from myself: Jesus died for you gents. That means you have value, but it is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to manifest and increase in value (challenge yourself, set goals and work to achieve them, read, take courses, take a new degree, masters or different line of work, develop yourself, build a network, go elsewhere; do something!) because the truth is, no one else will do it for you. 

And you can do it, when you believe you can.

Tunde T. Amao

Tree of Life – Bible Study


My brothers and sisters,

I’m excited to share with you what I learned when studying the Bible with a man of God, which inspired the initial Tree of Life post. I’ve added a bit more to it and I pray that it will help you understand how much God loves us and how merciful He is to us.

Where to begin? Of course, in the garden of Eden. (Emphasis Added)

Generally, God created the garden, the animals, the fishes and place the First Ones, Adam and Eve in the garden. God instructed Adam not to eat from the tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil and he passed that command onto Eve.

Genesis 1: 29 (ESV): And God said, “Behold, I have given you every plant yielding seed that is on the face of all the earth, and every tree with seed in its fruit. You shall have them for food.

Genesis 2: 8-9 (ESV): And the Lord God planted a garden in Eden, in the east, and there he put the man whom he had formed. And out of the ground the LORD God made to spring up every tree that is pleasant to the sight and good for food. The tree of life was in the midst of the garden and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.

Genesis 2: 15-17 (ESV): The LORD God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and to keep it. And the LORD God commanded the man saying, “You may surely eat of every tree in the garden, but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.

As the event unfolds, Satan deceives Eve and she eats the fruit and gives it to Adam; the start of the Fall. As outlined in Genesis 3: 14-19, God punished the snake by way of a curse, increases Eve’s child pain in childbirth and declares that her desire will be for her husband and declares to Adam the consequences of his disobedience, a cursed ground and the reality of having to work extra hard to eat.

Sidenote: God cursed the snake, not Adam and Eve. God only told them of the reality sin has caused, in the body and in the environment.

God made a declaration in verse 22:

Then the LORD God said, “Behold, the man has become like one of us in knowing Good and evil. Now, lest he reach out his hand and take also of the tree of life and eat and live forever-”
and as verse 23-24 states, sent them out of Eden and placed cherubim and a flaming sword to guard the way to the Tree of Life.

Going back, God had told them that they could eat from any tree in the garden, which INCLUDED the Tree of Life. In Genesis 3:22, God provides the nature of fruit from the Tree of Life, to bestow one with life forevermore; everlasting life. As pointed out in an earlier post, the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil gave Adam and Eve the Knowledge of Good and Evil.

Can we infer the original purpose and intention of God? I believe so! I learned that if Adam and Eve had eaten the fruit of the Tree of Life firstand assuming that they had eaten the fruit of the Knowledge of Good and Evil afterwards, they would be like God indeed, with everlasting life and the ability to handle the Knowledge of Good and Evil just like God Himself, not in a relative fashion which is mankind thinking about Good and Evil from his own perspective.

But this was not so, and God had to push Adam and Eve out to protect the Tree of Life. Again, why? Well, I learned that Adam and Eve were hungry and their hunger reflected an issue of the soul caused by the introduction of sin. They had created capacity within themselves, their soul, and needed to fill it.**

However, as we are aware, this was not so. Adam and Eve were in a state of sin, due to their disobedience. If they were able to obtain access to the fruit of the Tree of Life, then a catastrophic would arise; they would have everlasting life, the knowledge of good and evil coupled with unrepentant sin. 

 Adam and Eve repented, shown by the skin garments God covered them with (Gen 3:21; the first animal sacrifice! Where else did God get skins from? May explain the animal sacrifices later spoke about in the Law, and Hebrews 9:22 provides insight: Indeed, under the law almost everything is purified with blood, and without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness of sins.) rather than the loincloths they fashioned out of fig leaves (Gen 3: 7), but there was a problem; Adam carried the human race, and the sin affected them as well. Adam could not repent on behalf of the entire human race, but for his own sin.

Your sin effects other people. Read Romans 5: 12-19 for details. 

This is why God made provision to send Jesus, to die on the cross, to remove the innate sin, and to clothe you with righteousness. You have to believe in Jesus to receive the free gift of salvation and righteousness, then comes the renewing of your mind, the process of unlearning and relearning the word of God in its truth and entirety. Once obtained, you can put on the new man, your new identity and live it out with power and confidence.

1 Corinthians 15: 20-22 (ESV): But in fact Christ has been raised from the dead, the firstfruits of those who have fallen asleep. For as by a man came death, by a man has come also the resurrection of the dead. For as in Adam all die, so also in Christ shall all be made alive.

**The soul yearns for something more. The innate sin causes disruption in the soul. Some seek to fill the void by seeking drugs, sex, pornography, exorbitant spending, excessive television, relationships addictions etc. Capacity is created in the soul and a need to fulfil it grows, hence why addictions and reckless living manifests and takes place. The truth is, these will never satisfy you. They are temporary. Once obtained/consumed/indulged, the “benefit” vanishes. But when one fills their soul with Jesus, you create capacity, and your need for Him grows and grows. That’s why he’s satisfying. He always fills the void. 

Thank you for reading, and may God bless you for your diligence in studying His word.

Tunde T. Amao




You vs the World – Part 1



My brothers and sisters.

I would like to share my Bible study notes with you on a topic that we all must have an awareness of.

Who truly runs the world? The politicians? The financiers? The lawyers? The media? The entertainment industry?

No. The one who runs the world is Satan.


Isaiah 14: 12 – 15 (KJV) provides insight around what I call the Event before Creation and explains how and why Satan, previously known as Lucifer, fell from Heaven (Emphasis added).

How art thou fallen from heaven, O Lucifer, son of the morning! How art thou cut down to the ground, which didst weaken the nations! For thou hast said in thine heart, I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit also upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north: I will ascend above the heights of the clouds; I will be like the most High. Yet thou shalt be brought down to hell, to the sides of the pit.

Satan wanted to exalt himself above God, a divine crime. God, being all-knowing, sussed out his plan, and cast him out of heaven.

Jesus, being present in the beginning (1 John 1:1), saw this. In fact, he even told the seventy-two disciples he sent out in Luke 10:18 (ESV): 

And he said to them, “I saw Satan fall like lightning from heaven.”

Satan fell and ended up in the garden of Eden, to tempt Eve, (Genesis 3: 1-5) an act which caused reverberations across the earth, the effects we are seeing today. It is often said that Adam and Eve gave up their title of dominion of the world the moment they sinned against God. In fact, it is probably right to say that Satan still wanted to have dominion over something. If he couldn’t have heaven, then he would take the world.


There are many instances where Jesus Himself and Paul talks about the “status” of Satan (as established above) as a result of his fall, as well as his character and his ultimate goal. Below are a few scriptures to illustrate:

Ephesians 2: 2 (ESV) – and you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience. 

2 Corinthians 4: 4 (ESV) – In their case the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelievers to keep them from seeing the light of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God. 

John 8: 43-44 (ESV) – Why do you not understand what I say? It is because you cannot hear my word. You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do what he desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies. 

John 10: 10 (ESV) – The thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. 

 Please take heed of the weight behind these scriptures.


We have all been warned about the influence of the world; practices, viewpoints, improper standards and self-seeking behaviours. In fact, scripture has said that being a friend of the world equates with being an enemy of God. (James 4: 4).

With the knowledge of Satan’s character and his link to the world, 1 John 2: 15-16 (ESV) warns us even further (emphasis added; Also, note 2 Corinthians 4:4):

Do not love the world or the things of the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world – the desires of the fleshthe desires of the eyes and the pride of life – is not from the Father but is of the world.  

This is the battle plan of Satan, he will tempt you with these worldly tools. He used them with Eve in Genesis 3:6-7 (NIV):

You will not certainly die, the snake said to the woman. For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil. When the woman saw the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye,  and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her and he ate it.

Eve had no desire to eat the fruit until Satan came to speak to her. Eve saw that the fruit was good for food, a thought that never came to mind before her encounter with Satan. The pride to become like God and the desire to gain wisdom? Again, that was not present or apparent before her encounter with Satan.

Sidenote: I find it incredibly cheeky considering the circumstances here as Satan said: “For God knows that when you eat from it…”. If this was true, then wouldn’t have God made it clear from the get-go? And look at how he phrased himself, (when you eat from it) as if he had almost anticipated the First Beings eating the fruit, a thought that did not even cross their own mind’s, to begin with!

Also, please remember that this happened before sin entered into the world.

 In other words, Satan’s influence can awaken or identify the desire to. I believe that the “desire to” can be awakened when exposed to external influences.  Rick Warren explains the same point well in his book The Purpose Driven Life:

“…Satan identifies a desire inside of you. It may be a sinful desire, like the desire to get revenge or to control others, or it may be a legitimate, normal desire, like the desire to be loved and valued or to feel pleasure. Temptation starts when Satan suggests (with a thought) that you give in to an evil desire, or that you fulfil a legitimate desire in a wrong way or at the wrong time. Always be aware of shortcuts. They are often temptations!” 

It is the same when we spend time reading and studying the Bible. The desire to know Him awakens.

We have to pay close attention and be wary of the many sources of influence. Is it satanic/worldly or is it godly/righteous?

Once we recognise that the desires of the flesh, eyes, and life are knocking at our door, we have to respond accordingly.  Jesus did it, and so can you!

To find out how, please keep your eyes out for part two.

Tunde T. Amao

Understanding Purpose


My brothers and sisters,

It took a while for me to speak out on this, but frankly, I’m concerned.

There is a mass awareness about finding your purpose, which is a good thing, but let’s not allow the truth about purpose to be lost in the rhetoric sauce.

Purpose is flooded with many different aspects and questions to consider, but generally speaking, purpose has two elements: the noun (the name) and the verb (the doing). The effect of the rhetoric, in my opinion, is causing a drive of people looking to find purpose, (the name). Another aspect is the thought pattern of setting up businesses/organisations or participating in activities that can be considered as living on purpose.

Again, I’m not speaking against these good things, I’m only sharing my mind here but I write this post for those who may be struggling to find their own purpose.

The truth is if you find yourself struggling to find your purpose, its because it’s not your purpose. It’s His; Jesus Christ.

Christians, we are ALL called to fulfil the Great Commission (Matt 28:19 (the name)). How we do it is dependent on the skills, talents abilities and resources that He has given us (The doing).

A very simplistic illustration:

Kid number 1: Miss, he just pushed me!

Kid number 2: Miss, it was an accident!

Kid number 1: No, you did it on purpose!

Purpose: the act or expression which is preceded by a solid understanding or conviction of why the act or expression needed to be done.

Find out what God requires of you by studying the word. Faith comes by hearing the word of God, understand why and then do it. Don’t be over spiritual about it!

Luke 6: 46 (ESV) (Emphasis Added)  “Why do you call me ‘Lord, Lord’ and not do as I tell you?”

This is me sharing my thoughts on the matter, but what do you think? Let me know in the comment section below.

Thank you for reading.

Tunde T. Amao

True Fasting – Isaiah 58



My brothers and sisters,

In light of my previous post, I would like to break down this scripture and add practical points to consider. May the Holy Spirit minister to you as we delve into His word. I would like to put a disclaimer on this: we are all guilty of doing this (Emphasis added).


v1. Cry aloud; do not hold back; lift up your voice like a trumpet; declare to my people their transgression, to the house of Jacob their sins.

God is telling Isaiah to be bold and say it how it is and as scripture clearly states, to direct it to God’s people.

Simply put, God was not addressing the non-believers. There is something that God saw amongst his people and was not happy with.

v2. Yet, they seek me daily and delight to know my way, as if they were a nation that did righteousness and did not forsake the judgement of their God; they ask me of righteous judgements; they delight to draw near to God.

Error: They made effort to seek God’s face and found delight in his way, which requires active effort and mental understanding, but had totally forgotten, or neglected the call of righteousness, which is a firm, standard of living. Seeking His face, and delighting in the way He does things is not enough. The words “as if” conveys some element of pretence. For example, imagine knowing that someone doesn’t care about you, but constantly check in to see how you are as if they did. You already know the truth, so the initial act is not coming from a sincere place.  In regards to God’s judgement, i imagine that they had lost sight of why God had established His judgements; which was to govern the way and manner which they ought to live and also for their own good.

When was the last time you made effort to seek God’s face, understood and enjoyed His ways, but failed to put it to practice or even lived the standard that He has called us to live?

v3. ‘ Why have we fasted, and you see it not? Why have we humbled ourselves, and you take no knowledge of it?’ Behold, in the day of your fast you will seek your own pleasure, and oppress all your workers. 

Let us remember when we have fasted and did not expect the result that we wanted. As shown by the speech marks, this is what the Lord heard from His people. They were fasting to have their own needs met, which is not the purpose of fasting. Fasting is the act of denying the flesh and letting it know that your main sustenance is the Father.

God had also seen that whilst the house of Jacob was “fasting” they were engaging with oppression, which in God’s eyes, did not make any sense at all.

v4. Behold, you fast only to quarrel and to fight and to hit with a wicked fist. Fasting like yours this day will not make your voice to be heard on high.

Have you ever gotten into arguments and disagreements with others whilst you were fasting?

v5. Is such the fast that I choose, a day for a person to humble himself? Is it to bow down his head like a reed, and to spread sackcloth and ashes under him? Will you call this a fast, and a day acceptable to the Lord?

God is using rhetorical questions here to get the people to think: Did God call us to humble ourselves for a day, or a moment? The answer here is a resounding no!

v6-7. Is not this the fast that I choose: to loose the bonds of wickedness, to undo the straps of the yoke, to let the oppressed go free, and to break every yoke? Is it not to share your bread with the hungry and bring the homeless poor into your house; when you see the naked, to cover him, and not to hide yourself from your own flesh?

When we are fasting, we are also called to participate in alleviating burdens and fulfil all the requirements to anyone who fall within the categories above. As I was meditating on this as I shared in my testimony, seeing the elderly lady on the streets who was hungry, cold and needed attention, needed to be fed, covered up and provided assistance. In this context, as shared from my testimony, me hiding from my own flesh to me means noticing that the elderly lady needed help and pretending that I didn’t see her.

Rich, poor, educated or not, we are all human beings made up of blood and flesh. To ignore those who are in genuine need of assistance because of preconceived notions as what they could do with given money, resources defeats the point of loving our neighbours.


v8. Then shall your light break forth like the dawn, and your healing shall spring up speedily; your righteousness shall go before you; the glory of the Lord shall be your rear guard.

v9 – 10. Then you shall call, and the Lord will answer: you shall cry and he will say, ‘Here I am’. If you take away the yoke from your midst, the pointing of the fingers, and speaking wickedness, if you pour yourself out for the hungry and satisfy the desire of the afflicted, then shall your light rise in the darkness and your gloom be as the noon-day.

v11 – 12. And the Lord will guide you continually and satisfy your desire in the scorched place and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water, whose water do not fail. And your ancient ruins shall be rebuilt; you shall raise up the foundations of many generations; you shall be called the repairer of the breach; the restorer of streets to dwell in.

You can see that there are biblical principles to follow. Once you have applied the true fasting principle in verse 6-7, you can definitely expect God to show up. God isn’t a liar!

v13-14. If you turn your back on the Sabbath from doing your pleasure on my holy day, and call the Sabbath a delight and the holy day of the Lord honorable; if you honour it, not seeking your own way, or seeking your own pleasure, or talking idly; then you shall take delight in the Lord, and I will make you ride on the heights of the earth; I will feed you with the heritage of Jacob your father, for the mouth of the Lord has spoken.

Final point: remember that God’s Sabbath is His day, not yours. Let this be at the back of our minds when we do go to church.

How to honour His day:

1 Seek His Will.

2. Seek to please Him.

3. Speak with purpose.

When you follow God wholeheartedly, you will want to please Him, you will take every opportunity to display His love and talk about His son, Jesus Christ. The testimony is a call to encourage those to step out in faith. It would have been a huge shame if I had read God’s word and failed to perform it.

Let us kick this habit and actually be ambassadors for the Kingdom. Let us love others the same way we love ourselves. Let us take our calling seriously and say “Here I am, send me!”

I know that you have been blessed. Step out in faith brothers and sisters!

Tunde T. Amao