Many speakers have said it, pastors have preached it, the women are fed up with it and you’ve probably seen it, heard it and probably experiencing it right now.
There is a crisis in masculinity.
The young guys today are struggling to become who they are meant to become; Men.
Perhaps it’s the lengthy time spent in boyhood. You’re doing what you can, in a panic, to compensate for lost time. Maybe you’ve found yourself in situations where real life hit you hard and now you’ve woken up and have seen the world in a brand new light. You’ve probably seen other guys, maybe younger than yourselves, getting into places and now you feel like you’ve been left behind.
Or you’ve had your masculinity challenged by the women in your life or they left due to the lack of leadership, direction and maybe the self-confidence to be able to hold a relationship together. You notice a recurring pattern and you don’t know why. They always leave for someone you perceived as “better”.
Or maybe you’ve fallen into the hole of the world’s misconception of men. “Men are supposed to have this, men are supposed to be that, men are supposed to have achieved this by now” is the rhetoric that is spinning in the minds of males. You are now frustrated at the process of “getting to where you need to get to” because of how slow it is.
Or maybe you have that burning question that remains unanswered because you had a poor example of what a real Man looks like.
My brothers, you will never find it in material things, you will never find it in the wrong crowd and trust me, you will never ever find manhood within womanhood.
In the precious name of Jesus Christ, who created you for His pleasure and His glorious purpose, and because He loves you so dearly if you are still looking or you’re not too sure what your purpose in life is, please take this fundamental truth away:
If you are born male, it is your destiny, purpose and life-long goal to become a strong, confident and capable Man. You did not choose to be born male, God did. That’s His way of showing you that He wants you to become a Man.
And the Ultimate Man, the Perfect Man to follow is Jesus Christ. Your masculinity is rooted in Him.
There are many examples of how you can develop your masculinity in Jesus. Here are a few of many scriptures about what God says about Men and the path He has called them to take:
Genesis 2: 7 (NIV): Then the Lord God formed a man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.
Micah 6: 8 (NKJV): He has shown you, O man, what is good; And what does the Lord require of you but to do justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God?
Psalm 1: 1 – 3 (NKJV): Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and in His law he meditates day and night. He shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that brings forth it’s fruit in its season, who’s leaf also shall not wither; and whatver he does shall prosper.
1 Corinthians 13: 11 (NIV): When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.
I also commissioned a short pole on my Twitter page. The results are below:
Speaking from the male perspective, men are aware that they have to be focused on something, but often find themselves easily distracted on things that are not necessarily bad but not conducive to their personal progression as wholesome Men or are just simply focused on the wrong things.
The ladies acknowledge that manhood (or the lack of) is an issue and after fruitful discussions, I believe the common conclusion is that women would like the special men in their life to band together and seek guidance from other godly Men.
The knowledge gained from such networks would help them become wholesome Men themselves and in turn, will enable them to be effective in their relationships.
Guys, you are not focused because you don’t have guidance. Once you receive guidance, you’ll become focused.
So, to answer the question, how does one walk the Path of Man?
1. Believe in and follow the Greatest Man who lived, died and rose again; Jesus Christ.
2. Read the Word of God to discover, learn and apply God’s manhood principles in every area of your lives.
3. Seek guidance from (older) godly men.
Guys, becoming a Man is a lifelong pursuit, and it is not to be rushed. Our physique bares the image of Christ and when we walk in His ways we will surely become Men. It is equally important to walk with others on the same path towards manhood. Why? Scripture gives the answer:
Proverbs 3: 6 (NIV): In all your ways submit to him and he will make your paths straight.
Proverbs 11: 14 (NLT): Without wise leadership, a nation falls; there is safety in having many advisors.
Genesis 2: 18 (NIV): The Lord God said, “it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.
Proverbs 13: 20 (NKJV): He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed.
We cannot become Men by ourselves.
Peace and love my brothers.
Tunde T. Amao